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Lots of good memories associated with this song! For myself and both my sisters! I remember when we were first introduced to Bon Jovi! My sister A bought the album "New Jersey", and in those days we listened to every song on every new album - repeatedly! Heck, A and I even spent hours writing out the lyrics to some of them! These days I simply download (from Amazon! mostly) the songs that I like and ignore the rest! But, when I think of the hidden gems we found on the 'b' sides of some of the singles we sometimes bought, I suspect I might be missing out on a lot! Sadly, I cannot remember the last time I actually bought a CD and listened to the entire thing! MP3s are super cool and all, but lately my music selection has been limited!
I love Ghost Whisperer! I love it so much that I decided to dedicate tonight’s blog to it – you know, in the ‘spirit’ of sharing the love and all. I did not necessarily ship it, but I did enjoy the chemistry between Jim and Melinda. I was not even bothered about the ‘Jim-died-and-jumped-into-Sam’s-body-which-meant-that-Sam-died-and-Jim-became-Sam-but-we-still-saw-him-as-Jim-unless-he-was-looking-in-a-mirror-oh-and-lucky-he-knocked-Mel-up-before-biting-the-big-one” story arc (guess I’m just not that fussy). The fact that I love it so much was a bit of a surprise to my hubby though, especially since I have a terrible fear of ghosts! I have a terrible fear of rats too. If I were ever to encounter the ghost of a rat, or rat ghost, or ghost in rat form (you know what I mean), all hell would break loose! In my undies!!!
I’ve had my own personal experiences with ghosts, including creaky floorboards and heavy footsteps! True story! I was washing the dishes in an old Moth club, which was attached to the back of an old church (right! Of course it was haunted!), when it happened! I heard someone approaching me, and when I turned around there was no one there! It creeped the hell out of me! My heartbeat was racing and everything was trembling, so much so that I had to force myself to calm down. When that did not work, I ran! I never actually SAW anything and my hubby explained the entire experience away with things like “night air cooling things down... wind... house settling...” Seriously, it was a fucking old house, and it was after midnight! It should have been settled by then (yes, I know the whole ‘materials aging and temperatures causing expansion and contraction’ thing – it was a joke!) I once threatened to come back and haunt Pet (cruel, but she deserved it!) and she laughed at me! She said that once I figured out I was a ghost, I would scare the crap out of myself! She’s probably right. She still rips me off for asking my mom to accompany me to the toilet after we had watched “the Haunted Mansion”. And, when that Des’ree song “Life” came out, I immediately noticed, and agreed with, the lyrics. You know the “I don’t wanna see a ghost, it’s the sight I fear most. I’d rather have a piece of toast,” part? I heard that, although that song was quite popular, it was still derided and even won the BBC vote for the ‘worst pop lyric ever”! Come on BBC, she does have a point right? Of all the things I would rather be doing than chatting it up with ghosts, having a piece of toast is definitely on that list! You’re ok by me Des!
Anyhoo, Ghost Whisperer was super cool! Yes, Melinda did cry a lo-ot, but she was still cute (thank fuck for waterproof mascara huh?). Jim was cute too! I liked the way he just accepted Mel as she was! I also loved Andrea, and was really upset when she kicked it!
So, not much of a post tonight, but I am putting it out there anyway. The blog has been rather dead (lol!) lately, and since I am holding down the fort while Pet is busy with very important fanfic matters, my lame-o ghostly experiences will have to do!
Love this song! Love the melody, the lyrics and the music video! This is my song this week - the song that I HAVE to listen to at least 3 or 4 times a day! Even my little Marley is singing along with me (and she is only 3)
Regarding Pet’s last post: I understand what you are saying, however, I am afraid I am going to beg to differ, and agree… um… hang on… I beg to differently agree! Make sense?
I do not see any difference between the terms ‘author’ and ‘writer’. I tried to understand what earns a person who partakes in the penning of a story (yeah, I know. Just go with it) to label themselves as either of the abovementioned terms. Eventually I turned to various dictionaries and my friend Oxford was helpful enough to clarify for me:
Author: a writer of a book, article, or document
Writer: a person who has written something or who writes in a particular way.
So, I suppose the following could also be true:
An author is a writer, and a writer is an author!
Which means that, yes you are the writer of 6 books and the author of the occasional fanfiction. (See my clever mixing of the words there). And, regarding those individuals who feel the need to pass judgement on fanfiction authors…. Well, I did a bit of thinking on that too, then I did a bit of wikipedia and found that Fanfiction.net has over two million users! Two million! Any author is welcome to post their story on that forum, and even if only 5 per cent of the ff.net users read their story, they still have a readership of around 200 000! Even if only 1 or 2 per cent of the over two million users read their story… fuck-it, do the rest of the maths yourselves. So it is a bit of a broad generalisation of an opinion shared by a minority right? I mean, you have over 2 million users on ff.net alone who not only read fanfiction, but also review it. Could you then therefore say that fanfiction + constructive criticism = improved writing skills? These young authors are learning, and are mostly (from the reviews that I have read) encouraged to keep writing!
Additionally, fanfiction provides a very important service to those of us who are severely lacking in the writing skills department! (as Dad would say, I got hit with the “not good with the words” stick *nudge-nudge-wink-wink* Aw come on, it was good!). I want to hear more about my favourite TV series or even movie! I want the story to continue, or see them in an alternate universe, or finally have them doing the horizontal tango – in detail, but I lack the ability to write this myself. I am so grateful to all those brave souls who put their written work on a public forum, even though (according to certain individuals), it is not ‘real writing’’ (looks like written stuff to me though, with letters, punctuation and everything!)
And, there are published authors out there who started out as fanfiction authors. I recently read an interview with Muffy Morrigan (fanfiction writer and published author), and when asked why she wrote fanfiction, she replied that when she fell in love with a show, movie or book, she always wanted more! So she wrote more. In addition, she said that she sees fanfiction as a way of disciplining herself as a writer – or in her words: “You have to play by the rules of the verse that they have created and this can really hone the ability to create character and mood, and it really helps me define characters, it’s the ultimate exercise in writing for me!”
Did I mention she is a published author?
Finally, during the November 2010 National Novel Writing Month, Mercedes Lackey wrote a ‘pep talk’ to all writers where she also discussed fanfiction, and it’s advantages (link is below). As she said “Sometimes it's because someone else's creation got us by the throat and our storytelling demon won't let us go until we get our version down on paper or in pixels.”
So, to all those fanfiction authors out there, including my sister who is creating a fantastic Murdoch Mysteries story, especially for me (brag), THANK-YOU! And, please, keep writing!
Bones has been analyzed, Murdoch is still up in the air and Castle is still in the baby stage, so while we wait for a break I might have a little rant about another bug that gets up my nose. Labels.
We label everything around us. Working Mom’s, Home Makers, Writers, Doctors, Lawyers… you name it we have a label for it and a nice little pigeon hole to put them in, and most of the time they fit in there quite perfectly, but what about those that don’t? Why do we get to decide what the norm is or what is not?
Take writing, I am a writer, I classify myself as a writer and have done since I finished my first novel, IMO since I did complete it (ie. sweated blood to get almost every word out!!) that makes me a writer. I am not an Author, I would only earn that title if I became published, but I can live with that.
However I can not live with other people trying to shove me into a box I don’t fit into. In all truth I have lost friends over this and it still smarts to this day. I don’t write every day, I don’t hound the web looking for publishers or agents, I don’t sign up for every writing course I can find and… I occasionally write fanfiction. Now there are many writers out there that will slam me for that, I have been told it’s not real writing and I should concentrate on my novels (I have to-date completed six full length novels) instead of playing with someone else's toys. And I can not call myself a writer unless I write every day.
As D would say “true story!”
It’s rubbish of course, and while I am old enough to know its all some bitter twisted individuals who think that their way of looking at the world is of course the only right way and spend the majority of their lives policing those of us that dance to a different beat, it still gives me pause. I have lived a very unusual life, raise four children and am now a grandmother, so I really couldn't give a monkeys left nut what other people think I should be or do, but there are younger writers who would care, and who would be damaged by this kind of totalitarian attitude.
And that does not just apply to writers, young mothers are particularly vulnerable. They have everything stacked against them already before the baby is even born, every book, magazine article, friendly neighbor or family member will have different idea’s and opinions what the mother-to-be should do and how she should do it, and a lot of them get very pushy about it.
My daughter smoked during both her pregnancies, did I approve of it? Of course not. She’s read the books, heard it from her OBGYN. I’m not going to waste my breath barking up that tree. Do I give her advise, yeah, but I'm also very quick to tell her that if she feels I’m being pushy she should tell me to back off, and I meant it.
Which brings me to my point, people are different, they walk different, talk different, look different and smell different.. Why the fuck should they all act the same?
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck… it’s probably a Goose, leave it the fuck alone.
Ok, regarding Pet’s last post, I have two things: 1. Yes and, 2. No. All clear? No? Need more clarity?
Ok, here goes:
Yes, I do believe that Booth is trying to change, or maybe even test Brennan – but not in the ‘aww.. sweet’ way he did in previous seasons. In the latest episode, 'The Truth in the Myth', he came across as just plain mean. There is a nasty feel to it, which just might be my personal interpretation of the entire ‘teach-a-squint’ thing. I use the terms ‘mean’ and ‘nasty’ because it seems like he is playing with her beliefs, and using her feelings towards him as a kind of test as to how far he can push her. When she is having a hard time accepting his claims to have seen the Yeti, he says to her “you are no different than the people who believed the sun revolved around the earth”. You can see it affects her. His opinion is important and she therefore searches for a way to believe him, and stay true to her science and to herself. Also, the jokes she made in the car and his refusing to laugh at them is totally opposite the Booth of seasons past.
Lets take for example one of my favourite episodes of season 5, episode 6 (mainly my fave cos Gordon-Gordon was in it!!!). In the kitchen scene towards the end of the episode, Booth asks Brennan to do him a favour and she responds with “as long as I don’t have to shave my head”. Lame joke, but he laughs! He acknowledges that she is trying, and he makes an effort to laugh at her jokes. See! Different Booth!
However, sticking with this scene, before Bones arrives Booth has a conversation with Gordon that includes the following lines:
GORDON: Temperance Brennan. You’re in love with her. You’re building a world around her, a family.
BOOTH: We’re not compatible. She sees the world one way, I see it the other way.
GORDON: No of course, it’s absolutely ludicrous the idea of you together, but the heart chooses what it chooses, doesn’t it? We don’t really have any say in the matter.
BOOTH: She doesn’t love me. I would know if she loved me.
GORDON: May I counsel patience on this front. Hope and patience.
Hope and patience! Then, a few episodes later he goes all gambler on her ass. I also re-watched that scene, as painful as it was.
BRENNAN: I am not a gambler; I'm a scientist. I can't change. I don't know how. I don't know how.
Kind of breaks your heart. Well, my little shipper heart broke for Booth, and for Brennan. It was painful to watch – the desperation in Booth and the sorrow in Bones. However, he knows her, he knows it was too much too soon. His response should have been to go about proving to her that his love is secure, it is there to stay, and not set up house with the first blond he grabs under a tree!
In Season 6 ‘The Blackout in the Blizzard’ he admits that he is angry, but says he is not angry with her. But, sometimes, it kind of seems like he is.
2. No, I don’t believe that Brennan is not willing to bend for him (no, Pet – not that kind of ‘bend’ – but feel free to fanfic that image you now have in your head). I don’t think that she is being too rigid. I’ll give you a couple of examples:
The paper burning scene:
Brennan tells him that she is improving. She is strong. She was an impervious substance when they met (a substance that is impervious to damage, does not need to be strong), now she is a strong substance. And a time could come when she is strong enough to risk loosing the last of her imperviousness. Sounds to me like she is working on allowing her heart to be as open as his is.
In the following episode, the foot-bone specialist is so affected by Brennan’s opinion of his occupation that his arm no longer works. In another lovely scene-in-car Booth asks Bones to apologise to Dr. Foot. She listens to his arguments that ‘sometimes being a grown man makes it hurt more, and what makes us human is that we can feel compassion and regret’. She then asks him why it is so important to him, and he says that he knows her, he knows what kind of person she is and he wants other people to see it too. He wants her to share some of that with the people around her. And she does, but in her own way. She does what Booth requests, but in a way that she can still feel she has remained true to herself. She did not apologise, she was “remiss” or “contrite”. I love this in Bones, she is willing to listen to him, she is willing to accept his ‘improvement suggestions’ and attempts to make her more ‘compassionate’ – but she is not willing to give up herself, or her science to do it. She’ll do it for him, but she’ll do it in her own way!
I could add a few more. The Angela and the pig issue in episode 6 of season 5. Even though Sweets has already advised her to just help Ange save the pig, she only does so once Booth also tells her that it is better to just “let Angela have this one”. Without hesitation she follows Booth’s advice.
However, all our character analysis aside, the only thing that will get these two together is if HH picks up a pen and MAKES IT HAPPEN!
D and I had a very long in-depth debate about the last episode of Bones. One of many that we have decided to agree to disagree on. The thing is, I can totally see where she is coming from. Let me explain…
Booth did another of his teach-the-squint-humanity type games with Bones and I have to admit he’s even starting to annoy me with it. (D on the other hand is way past annoyed and close to lets cut his balls off and make pretty earrings stage… mmm I do love danglies in my ears…but I digress.)
D’s thinking is that ever since the beginning of the ship, Booth has been systematically trying to change Bones into what he feels is the right way to be, even his “I’m the gambler” thing is in D’s opinion another example of his my-way-or-the-highway ruling, saying that yes I love you, but you need to love me the way I want you to love me or I will go find someone else, and D’s right, absolutely.
In this last episode another wee lesson was given, he tells her undeniably that he saw a Yetti and because she cares for him, but can't change her scientific belief she goes all out to find a way that she can believe in him and yet not loose her basic belief in science. In the end he admits that he never did see one and that she just went to a lot of trouble for nothing. (Swine!!) Honestly, I’m with D on that one, I admit I was not at first, I was shocked and shaken and ready to shout “throw the turncoat overboard” when my ever present inner editor/voice of reason (bloodsucking, soul destroying slug from hell! The IE not D… hehe) poked me into watching that part of the show again. He’s smug!! The son of a bitch is standing there not with an ah-man-she’s-so-cute expression on his face as I first assumed, he’s smug, with an I-taught-the-sqint a lesson smirk on his face.
However, DB’s obviously slacking acting skills aside, I am not quite ready to grab the life vests yet. While I do agree with D in part that he is trying to change her, and this last episode did raise my hackles and I really really want to hand Bones a gun to shoot him with, I have to disagree with D’s opinion that it’s all only on his side. The truth is Bones is just as determined to change him as he is her. By the very fact that she will not bend one tiny fraction in her rigid beliefs she is in fact trying to force him into a mould of her making.
They are both unable to accept the other as they are, both of them convinced that their way is the only way, and both are desperately hanging onto their “identities” terrified to change for the other. And the sad fact is both of them do need to compromise before that ship can sail anywhere other than the bottom of the ocean its heading for at the moment.
He’s going to have to start accepting that she will never have blind faith in anything, except him, and that’s what he can’t see. She does have absolute faith in him, and he has the same faith in her, yet neither of them realize what that means. She is set in her fear that she will never be as open as he is, but she’s already open to him. She just needs to realize that, and there in lies the lesson I think he’s trying to show her.
And Booth? Well he needs to accept that love is not always about who shows it the most, who says it the loudest or even who is more open to it, but that it's in the quiet moments and the trust one heart has for another. Booth has worn his heart on his sleeve for her from the start and that's his way, but just because she does not dangle it out there, or even name it for what it is, does not mean it's not as true or as real as his. They both need to stop expecting the other to be “ideal” and accept that what they have is already working with both of them just the way they are, and that in itself is a change they both have to make.
He moved his hand up to cup her face, using his thumb to gently press her chin until her lips parted, he could almost hear her gasp of aroused shock as the hand he had curled around her hip tightened and drew her flush against him. Her breasts were pressed against his chest and he groaned with the need to feel them skin to skin. Gently so very slowly, careful to give her enough time to push him away, he lowered his mouth to her’s…
Pet is misery, and I’m the company! True story!Every show I currently ship (all 3 of them), was introduced to me by my sister, and not because she thought I might be intrigued by the medical, forensic and detecting/clue-solving aspects, nor because she thought I might learn something (yes, you can learn from TV – no, really you can! For example, I recently learnt that: should I find myself on a burning boat in shark infested waters, the first thing I should do, before abandoning ship, was to throw the cooler box in the water.No, not to offer the sharks a drink with their meal, or, as I thought, to ensure that I had enough beer to get fuck drunk so I would, A) not care that I am being eaten and, B) have enough alcohol in my system to ensure the sharks suffer a major hangover the next day.But, rather to have something to keep me afloat while fighting off the sharks, which I was to do with whatever weapon I could find (note to self, when going sailing always take a baseball bat and keep it near the cooler box!)Anyway, back to Sister Misery.She got me into these shows so that she would have someone to bitch, moan and cry with when the bastard writers did not allow our favourite couples to have sex!On screen!Often!
It started with Bones.I was quite happy, and ship free (i.e. Misery-free) and determined to stay that way!So much so that I was desperately trying to get into “Supernatural”!It seemed like the safer option as there is no possibility of a ship between the two main characters (not even acknowledging the slash-ship I have heard about.Now, I have nothing against slash-shippers, but in this case the incest factor is unacceptable to me.My ships entertain me, incest does not).Only problem with Supernatural though is that it scared the crap out of me!The scarecrow episode?I am still too scared to drive through any fields or farmland/forrest type areas at night.Then there was the clown episode!!!That was enough to turn me against McDonalds completely!I refuse to go eat anywhere near that Ronald McDonald clown that creepily sits near the playground.Plastic or not, he still scares the McFuck out of me!So, I decided to watch an episode of Bones.Then I watched another.And another (see a pattern developing here?)After about 5 episodes I was hooked!By season 4, I was a major Booth and Brennan shipper.Then along came Spannah, and I refused to watch.I made Pet watch (cos I wanted to know what was happening and when it was safe for me to watch again.And, it seemed like a fitting punishment for her, you know, for making me ship Bones and all!)
Then she started on me about Castle! Again, I refused until I got sick and found myself bedridden with nothing to watch and no interest in holding a book and having to turn pages and stuff!So I decided to put Castle on and maybe catch a nap.I never got to nap because Castle caught me from the very first episode.I found the show to be so well written!The humour, the wit, Nathan Fillion!I loved it.I only started shipping it in the third season though, partly because I was so pissed off with Booth and his complete change of character, and mostly because the flirting between Castle and Beckett was sooooo hot!Of course they brought Dr. InterruptEveryFuckingCaskettMomentYouSwinie in just to get the shippers riled – but I have faith that he will soon become Dr. FuckedOffBackToAfrica.
Finally we get to Murdoch Mysteries.In this case I KNEW what was going to happen!Every time I spoke to Pet she was on about Murdoch Mysteries and how I had to watch it.To give the devil her due (yes, I called you evil!), she was honest and told me she needs company in her misery.So, here I am.I am the company!
There are literally hundreds of these lists on the internet, most of them on youtube which makes you think, (well ok it makes me think…) Just what kind of research are modern day movie/tv show makers doing?
I’m thinking not enough. Because while I could find hundreds of clips and compilations, they all seem to be about the same films! Do we really only have 20 memory allocation worthy love scenes out there? (And Spot most of those hundreds of clips consist of Bollywood movies! *Smirks*)
Anyway back to my point — which is in there somewhere — I thought I would make a list of the best/hottest/juiciest kisses, or love scenes in movies and television. I’m not going to make them a count down best to worst or vise versa I don’t have the patience for that. It’s just a list of really cool scenes.
1. Presidio 1988. Mark Harmon, Meg Ryan (Sean Connery was in the movie but… who noticed :P) The love scene in that is just this side of indecent (in a good way)… and the movie is really good too.
2. Tequila Sunrise 1988 Mel Gibson, Michelle Pfiefer. (seems to have been the year for it… kind of like good wine). Say what you like about him now (crazy old guy) but Mel gave the best love scene’s! But then what leading lady would not want to be pressed naked against him for hours on end? (Back then, now I don’t think his Chihuahua wants to be in the same zip code.)
3. The Notebook 2004 Ryan Gosling, Rachel MacAdams.(I know a whole truck load of other people acted in all these movies but I am not going to go look them all up)
You just know the movie is going to have an awesome love scene when the cover is hotter than hot.
4. The Mummy, 1999 and The Mummy Returns. Brendan Fraser, Rache Weisz
Two words Brendan Fraser! Need I say more? Ok I know its a horror, but there is just such a sweet tenderness in how Rick is with Eve, there is this deep caring and respect but also an I-want-my-hands-all-over-you sort of undercurrent.
5. Still Breathing 1997 Brendan Fraser, Joana Going,
IMO the hottest non-sex scene ever, when he starts talking about the chocolate I just want to take a bite out of him. The music is incredibly sexy too.
6. An Officer and a Gentleman. 1982 Richard Gere, Debra Winger.
Ok I admit I added this one because its suppose to be a great love story and that bit where he carries her out at the end is cute… but… personally I think Richard Gere is just a little too pleased with himself to ever pull of a good loves scene or story, sadly while I think Keanu Reeves is close to godhood in looks, he’s another one I seldom buy as madly in love with someone other than himself. I’m sure I’m just being a mean old bitch here and both men are wonderfully warm fuzzies, but…
7. Catch and Release 2006. Timothy Olyphant, Jennifer Garner
OMG I think if anyone ever kissed me like that I’d evaporate so all that’s left of me is a wet spot on the wall with a tongue hanging out of it!!
8. Becoming Jane 2007. Anne Hathaway, James McAvoy
The whole film made me sad from the beginning mostly because I'm a huge Jane Austin fan and I know she never married so the ending was inevitable but still some lovely moments.
9. Bridget Jones Diary 2001. Renee Zellweger, Hugh Grant, Colin Firth
I’m very slutty on this movie, I love Bridget with Daniel and that end kiss with Mark… well, lucky lucky Renee.
And that is all I can think of right now, I have spent far more time on this than I should have and at the cost of a very juicy love scene in my own writing. (Sorry spot hehe.)
Sometimes the show’s team of writers, creators (torturers?), will come up with a sub-ship, or background-ship. This is a relationship between two supporting characters in a tv show. These are the guys who are constantly nervous cos they know, as soon as a huge dramatic episode is needed, it could be their ass on the line, as they are always the first to either be shipped off, killed off or turned into a serial killer apprentice!
So, here are some of the ‘background-ships’:
Angela and Hodgins in Bones. Meh… to be honest, I don’t really care about this relationship. Personally I just don’t see any chemistry. I LOVE Angela and have so-so feelings for Hodgins, but I kind of preferred her with Wendall. But, that’s just me.
Lanie and Esposito in Castle, or as Castle himself called them, “Esplainie”, cos they always explaining things. These two I like! Which is why the ‘someone dies’ spoilers going around now are really making me nervous! But aren’t they cute? One of my favourite moments between these two is when Lanie calls Esposito “Baby” at a crime scene in episode 16 of season 3. And when they call her on it, she does not cringe or give herself a forehead slap, she just says, “Oooh, did I?”
Who else do we have? Oh, yes, another background-ship that I really like is Will and Emma from Glee (yes, I watch it!) And, yes I know, not technically a background-ship, or is it? Don't know - I'm putting in here anyway. Although I was not too upset when they set Emma up with yummy John Stamos! I like me some Stamos now and then, and he was really sweet in the show. However, getting her back with Will means maybe getting another look at Will’s abs! Or, they could just forget that ship and have Will develop an allergy to shirts, thereby giving him a reason to spend every scene in every episode shirtless! See, I am willing to compromise!
I also loved the Sam and Emma sub-ship in The Young Riders! I love how they used that for a bit of fun, and the scenes between those two were always guaranteed to bring a laugh! Of course they got shipped right off the show at the end of the first season. WTF?!?
And finally, there seems to be a ship coming in for George in Murdoch Mysteries! Now this one I am really shipping hard – simply because there are spoilers out there claiming that there will be a wedding at the end of the season! I really want this wedding to be between George and whatshername! Don’t actually care who he marries, he can marry the fucking dog from the first episode for all I care – as long as the wedding is NOT between Julia and Dr. Wildebeest!
